Am I back? I think I just might be

Over the past 8 years, I often find myself coming back here to relive my teenage whimsies.

However, I couldn't access her (my blog) for a couple years, because I had forgotten my login details, hence, was locked out. Fortunately, it finally worked out fine tonight.

I've been through a lot since the my last published post, both good and bad lots. Looking back to who I was at the time, a lot has changed. Life has taken a lot from me, while I also took some from it...unfortunately not in equal measures. Nevertheless, I think I may be back to writing. 

I recently discovered that I don't exactly love writing with my hands, with a pen, and on paper. I sometimes put too much pressure on my hands when writing, which makes my palm start to hurt, so it's just kind of an hassle for the most part. Typing on the other hand, feels the entire opposite. Probably because I started typing since I was more or less 13. So, it feels very natural and doesn't make my hands hurt...for the most part.

All that aside, my initial thought when I saw the last date I published a post, and proceeded to connect some dots and timelines in my brain was -- 'may God punish this boy, God punish Timi'. There's a possibility the said person might see this later, but I really don't care about that. All I could think of was how meeting them was the last straw that made my camel eventually lose her spark.

TODAY'S Q/A POST: HOW DO OTHER AFRICAN COUNTRIES VIEW NIGERIANS?

Source: Quora.com

BIBLICAL VIEW ON PIERCINGS

Getting your ears pierced is a big deal in so many households. Many of us can remember growing up begging our moms to let us get them done or waiting until we are old enough to get them. You wait in anticipation, thinking about how pretty you’ll look with those little diamond studs in your ears and your parents think about the fact that their baby is actually growing up.

While we often consider how we’ll see ourselves and how others will look at us, many of us fail to consider what God thinks about this decision. While being a Christian doesn’t mean putting checkmarks on a list of do’s and don’ts, it’s still important to put the messages of our culture through the filter of God’s Word to see how they hold up.

Body piercings and tattoos continue to be a highly debated topic in the Christian community. While some Christians don’t believe body piercing is a sin at all, others believe the Bible makes it quite clear that we need to treat our bodies as temples and not do anything to damage it, including body piercings.

HOW TO TIE A TIE (With Pictures)

You've been tying your tie the wrong way!
Here's how to knot a tie...

Stop Blaming President Buhari!

We blame all issues on our leaders...yeah, 50% of the issues arise from their incompetency, but who takes the blame for the remaining 50??? No one!

Every single person is looking for who to apportion blames, and we can only point at the leaders, who fail to carry out their obligations properly.

It even gets to the point where we compare the mode of dressing and fashion trends between other foreign leaders and our very own leaders.

I'm scared of falling in love again

Yeah...very afraid!

I just have to admit it to myself. I'm scared of falling in love.

Most people would say I'm too young to know what love is, afterall I'm only eighteen, but I believe the lessons and experiences start from the teenage years.

I admire the whites for a lot of things which includes giving freedom to their offspring to go out and know what life is like out there. Rich or poor...the kids start dating at a very young age and most of them even leave home to get independent at eighteen.

Truth be told, most African kids too get independent at a rather younger age, owing to the fact that their parents struggle to provide for the family;  or the kids are orphaned; or some other reason, and then the kids are pushed out to experience the world at a rather younger age and they hustle really hard just to feed themselves.

The Bitter-Sweet Realities Of Life

Hi Darlings, you've been good...yeah?

I've been doing some thinking and have come to a realization that we fail to admit to the realities of life.

For instance, I have uncles whom I love not much or less than the love you have for a random relative and I do trust them wholeheartedly. I'm sure if anyone told me that they are cheating on their wives, I would deny it totally.

I just can't bring myself to imagine them taking another lady out and leaving their beautiful wives behind??? It doesn't make any sense, but yeah...it does make sense, they are mere mortals, and even in the movies, immortals cheat on their spouses...lol, just kidding!

And I'm surenuff not the only one on this page, or am I?

We fail to accept life in its bittersweet lessons. We fail to make memories and learn from our mistakes.

MY VIEW ON SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE

Recently, myself and a friend were having random discussions, and then we started talking about sex before marriage. That was when I realized we had different views.

My belief is that it is wrong and also not wrong. Why, you might ask.

5 TIPS TO STUDYING EFFECTIVELY

Everyone is different. Different methods work for different people; the following are only suggestions on improving your current studying techniques.

1. Make a Study Plan: Time is precious. Nobody is more aware of this than the student who hasn’t studied a thing until the night before an exam. By then, of course, it might be too late. The key to breaking the cycle of cramming for tests is to think ahead and create an effective study plan. Not only will this help you get organised and make the most of your time, it’ll also put your mind at ease and eliminate that nasty feeling you get when you walk into an exam knowing that you’re not at all prepared. As the old saying goes, "fail to prepare and be prepared to fail".

5 WAYS TO OVERCOME PROCRASTINATION

 

1. ASK YOURSELF: Before you start working on any task, ask yourself the following three questions:

- Is this the best use of my time at the moment?

- Do i know where to start from?

- Am I using this task as an excuse to avoid working on something else that’s more important?

2017 BUDGET / GOALS

I promised on my previous post to share an update on my 2017 Budget / Goals. Well, i recently, painfully misplaced my dear notepad, and it contains my written 2017 Goals and Budget.

But, i'd try to share the ones i remember below. Let's see.

WHAT'S NEW???

Recently, i got a mail from Ijeoma @klassykinks, and reading through her messages, i see me in her younger self, though there are some differences which i crossed out in the message as shown below - 

A couple weeks ago marked 7 years since I cut off all my relaxer and embraced my natural hair. It feels like forever ago, especially since so much has changed. Seven years ago, I was an insecure 19 year old in an abusive relationship who was afraid to ask questions in classes, gave up her love of writing because it didn't seem cool, and made decisions based on other people's thoughts and influences. (I've been thinking about doing these until now).

THE GOOD NEWS AND THE BAD ONE!

I guess Oprah prays a lot, so i had to upload a gif of her...

Yeah i know...i know that i've been so unfaithful.
I started blogging because i wanted to learn  more about web programming and the likes, and later i got to know that you could make money from it and i thought "THAT'S NOT BAHHHD".

LETTER TO MR. PRESIDENT - PRESIDENT MUHAMMADU BUHARI

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Lagos.

                                                                                      21^st of September, 2015.

                                                                                      2nd of January, 2017.

His Excellency,

President Muhammad Buhari

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Dear Sir,

LETTER TO MR. PRESIDENT

I write this letter as a concerned citizen of Nigeria. With all the recent events that occurred after your inauguration for the position of the presidency, most of the citizens/victims are very grateful for fulfilling parts of your promises and we look forward to your fulfilling the rest.

Previously in this letter, I wrote that “The power sector has been stable, so as the oil sector and the inflated petroleum price has returned back to its normal price (i.e. ₦87.00) although there are still problems with the price which I am going to elaborate on when I write further”. But now, I would like it for Your Excellency to note the displeasure in the hearts of the citizens, due to the increased price, I mean, even if His Excellency had to devalue our currency for one reason or another, it shouldn’t “majorly” affect the oil sector.

We were made to believe as children that Nigeria produces fuel and other natural resources, then why? Why does the devaluation of ‘our currency’ affect ‘our fuel’? From apparently ₦87.00, it rose to ₦143.00 per litre. And as if that was not even enough, the filling stations sell it at the rate of ₦150.00 per litre. Mr. President, this is one major reason why most citizens don’t believe in your powers. Though, I still seem to believe in you, maybe because I don’t have much responsibility, so I am not allowed to feel it.

7 THINGS NATURALISTAS CAN IDENTIFY WITH

Was thinking about the fun and frustrations of being a natural-haired individual and decided to post a write-up on the "Things Naturalistas Can Identify With". 

50 POUNDS???

So, yesterday, one of my uncles (not related by blood though), had 50 pounds on him, and asked me to go to the regular junctions of the acmd (aboki change my dollars) and ask how much they would change 1pound to in naira, but somehow, someone else went, when the guy came back, he delivered the result, saying a pound cost 540 in naira, i was confused at first then i thought deeeeply. 540 x 50 = 27,000.

Lol...who is in need of a seketry???

 

Seriously...who needs a 'seketry' that has both first class and second class degrees for employment...don't lose the opportunity of getting the best staff... Lol.

Seriously... IMAGE OF THE DAY

I just don't get it... Why do people ask crazy questions???
In the picture...someone is asking the 'screencapturer' about his mother. I even thought they knew each other buh its just confusing. The latter replied saying his mom is in heaven and the 'interviewer' asks if she is dead. Seriously???
Anyhow, i gbadun the guys reply. His late mom went for sim registration. Lol, he should have said she went shopping for xmas...

MEANWHILE, AT IJEBU-ODE...

 

I had to go open a new bank account for my school account at Ijebu-Ode. I got to Lagos Garage and asked an Okada rider to take me to the nearest bank branch. We were on our way and I was looking at the buildings we passed...when I sighted a statue or should I say carving??? It was at the center of the roundabout,  but my cellphone was inside my bag and we would have gone far past it before I would be ready to take a quick picture. I got to the bank, did what I was asked to do and thinking about the 'hours' I spent there, I would have forgotten about the statue.

A RELATIONSHIP TURNED SOUR

I was on my way to my-to-be school (university). I recently gained admission and was going for registration. I went with big bro...you might be curious as to why i didn't go on my own, afterall i'm a 'Big Girl' or 'Big Lady'??? Well, that's a story for another day.

I was kinda thinking about the kinda girl i've been morally (though i do have minor clashes with my Parents at times), i was thinking about how i've been staying at the right path and not straying away when...i remembered, remembered how his heart got shattered.

I would refer to him as KB or BK...KB - so he can be imagined as a social, cool, hot, bad guy and BK - imagined as a nice, quiet, caring, loving guy.

He is my friend's cousin, and he is also a very close friend of mine...at least he used to be.

I recall how we met...my friend's mum's shop is beside my mum's. And we live close to the shop. So, whenever my friend (Let's call her Vivi) comes from her home, she and her brothers will come to my house and we will play around together.

Backdate to 8years ago-
There was this hot afternoon, i was in the room watching a Korean movie (i have a crush on interesting korean 'movies') when Vivi came in with one of her brothers and a new guy. I was putting on a singlet and its (what we call follow-come) shorts. We chatted and played.


Later, while playing we got introduced and became closer friends.
Now, fast-forward to about 8 years later, we are teenagers already, everyone is dating this person or that person, i'm the only one standing out.

I'm most closer to BK...he talks with his gf on phone for two hours (only God knows what they talk about). After they close from school, he comes back and we all talk about the day's adventure.

I watched as their relationship blossomed;
Cute, handsome, hot, caring. nice guys that other girls wanted to have to themselves asked me out one after the other, but relationships just isn't my thing.

I would ask KB about her at times, and he seemed happy as ever, then it started....

I liked the way BK daringly loved and cared for her, but i wasn't ready to be committed in a relationship...i just liked the freedom of singledom. Since i clocked 12 till present, my friends/mates have been going in and out of relationships, and i was one of the unique ones, the NDSB (Never Dated Since Birth) and i was proud of myself.

Anyways, i started crushing on KBK, he was caring and what any girl would want for herself, and I once told Vivi, and one other friend that i had a crush on him and i could seduce and get him if i wanted to, but i wasn't one to break a fellow girl's heart. Actually...i wasn't one to do that, but she was one to break a guy's heart.

She had to transfer to another high school, but it wasn't far from her previous one...maybe, she was waiting for that moment. She told BK that she couldn't do it any more. KB came back from school that day, and we had been having some minor issues (not related to the crushing), i could sense that he was not ok, then my lil sis asked what happened and i heard his older cousin (Vivi's bro) playfully say that his gf broke his heart, it was funny and we laughed.

Some days later, we reconciled and resolved the issues, we talked about his ex, and he said he had moved on from her...cool, i thought.

Somehow, he mistakenly found out about the crush, it happened when i mistakenly sent him a message that was meant for one friend's ex-boyfriend that was asking me out.

I felt like a fool...how could i have mistakenly selected his number, that was my most embarassing situation as a teenager.

Later on, we started avoiding each other, or maybe i was the one avoiding him, and my other friend started telling me that he wanted to go out with me. It was kinda funny and strange. I avoided the topic whenever we talked and pretended i never had a crush on him, but he was only falling harder.

Almost Christmas, mum said we were traveling for my uncle's wedding and to spend christmas with her parents, particularly her father, my grandfather which i hadn't seen since birth. Anyways, we traveled and i chatted with KB all through the journey, told him how i saw the Niger River for the first time (Note: my grandparents reside at Niger State).

On 26th of December, he popped the question and asked me out, it was weird and i immediately rejected him, my friend called minutes later and told my how crazy i was to reject a guy i liked, he asked again and again until the 28th of December when i finally said yes!!!

We returned back to Lagos on the 31st of December, and i rushed to see him first.
It was fun dating him, and i kept crushing on him. But did i really like him???

We sent text messages, sat down together. Everyday after i close from work, i would rush to see him instead of helping my mom to cook at home or go to rest.

Then the time came, i was to write my final high school exams, i needed time to study, i didn't want any distractions, i started studying and we rarely saw each other. I didn't feel like i really liked him, i just had a crush on him, that's all, nothing serious, maybe i liked him because he treated his girlfriend so well.

It was almost d-day, valentine's day, February 14th.
It was February 13th, a Sunday, i didn't go to see him, i sent a message, apologizing and telling him that i needed space, that we needed to break up, that i didn't mind if he dated other girls, that we could remain friends, and that maybe we could get back together if I still wanted after my exams.
I can't imagine how he felt on the said day, i had shattered a broken heart. We didn't see for days after then, on the day, we met and it was awkward.

It was long before he finally forgave me, though we are friends now, i'm sure when he sees me, the memory comes rushing, cos at times, he just doesn't want to talk to me.

Now the thing is, having a crush on someone and liking someone, could someone please decipher the difference, because most teenagers out there still think having a crush on someone is still the same as really liking someone. I just don't get it.